Research shows the over estimating as well as underestimating value when building can be problematic. When asked which one is worse many developers would say underestimating the value. The danger of estimating something to be smaller or less important than it actually is that it can be costly.
In project development the cost will differ depending on the item being assessed, for example materials, time, and labor costs will vary. The same is true when you consider placing value on a person. Society expresses value based on what is produced and what an individual brings to the table. I agree that adequately assessing the benefit and cost of every endeavor or relationship is necessary. Where I’ve grown concerned, is with the demise of many people who have underestimated their own value in ways that compromise their own core values and authenticity.
In sessions I have the opportunity to assist clients with examining their behavior and the thoughts that influence those behaviors. Many times I help to expose narratives that have never been spoken but are carried out within my clients day to day lives. Narratives like:
“I’m not enough”
“The opinions of others mean everything too me”
“I’f I say no, I will make them mad”
“If I change they will leave me”
“If I’m successful I will be loved”
“If I avoid conflict then I won’t get rejected”
“Getting close to others is too risky”
These statements are powerful dictators within the individuals who carry them. Notice that they all express a value based on external factors or comparisons made by the individual. I’ve learned that the enemy launches an assault on our identify and our value during childhood in hopes that we will forfeit our destiny. These narratives, or what is clinically known as Cognitive Distortions, hinder our growth and our relationships. They cause us to live a life that does not align with Gods original plan for his people. Underestimating your value will lead you to except less than what God has for you. It will cause you to turn a blind eye to red flags and decline blessings sent just for you.
As you are learning more and healing from all that life has thrown at you, remember that your value was established at the cross! A price was paid that you nor I could ever repay. The price of our ransom was MIGHTY! Because you are worth more than rubies, you’re Gods greatest creation, royalty, and most of all chosen for such a time as this!
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